Emulate: The Highest Form of Admiration

by Danny Ballan | Jul 30, 2026 | FLOW

Is there a difference between copying someone and emulating them?

There's an enormous one, and it's hidden in the root, and I think recovering it might change how you relate to everyone you've ever admired.

Emulate comes from Latin aemulari, meaning to rival, to strive to equal, to compete with. And the noun aemulus meant a rival — someone striving alongside you, in the same direction, trying to match or exceed what you've done.

So emulation was never imitation. It was rivalry. Not hostile rivalry — the ancient sense had real admiration in it — but rivalry nonetheless. To emulate someone was to take them as your measure and then go after that measure, trying to reach it and, if possible, pass it.

And that's a completely different posture from copying.

The copier stands behind and reproduces. Their eyes are on the model, and their goal is resemblance — the closer the match, the greater the success. The copier is trying to arrive at something that already exists.

The emulator stands beside. Their eyes are on the same thing the model was looking at. The goal isn't resemblance; it's the standard. And the emulator's success is measured not by how much they look like their hero but by how well they hit the target the hero was aiming at.

That distinction sounds abstract until you apply it, and then it's everywhere.

Think about anyone who genuinely learned from a great teacher. If they came out producing work indistinguishable from the teacher's, we'd say something went wrong — they were absorbed rather than trained. What we hope for is the other thing: someone who took the teacher's standard, their seriousness, their refusal to accept the easy answer, and then applied it to their own material and went somewhere the teacher never went.

That's emulation. It's inheriting the aim rather than the artifact.

And every real tradition works this way, in every field. The apprentice copies at first, necessarily, because you have to learn the moves before you can do anything with them. But copying is a stage, not a destination, and everyone who stopped there is forgotten. The ones we remember are the ones who copied their way to competence and then turned their eyes forward, toward whatever their master had been chasing, and chased it themselves — and often further.

Now, the rivalry part, because I think we're squeamish about it and shouldn't be.

We're comfortable with admiration. Admiration is safe and warm and costs nothing. You can admire someone for thirty years without ever changing anything about your own conduct.

Emulation is admiration with a demand attached. It says: if this is genuinely excellent, then it is a standard, and I am now measurable against it. And that's uncomfortable, because it converts a pleasant feeling into an obligation. It's the difference between loving a writer and being tormented by them — and anyone who has ever seriously wanted to make something knows that the second is where the work actually comes from.

Which is why so much of our admiration stays deliberately vague. If you never articulate what makes the person admirable, you never acquire a standard, and if you never acquire a standard you can never fall short of one. Diffuse admiration is very comfortable. It's also inert.

But I want to sound one warning, because rivalry has a shadow, and the ancients knew it too.

The Greeks distinguished between two feelings that look at the same person and go opposite directions. One says they have achieved something excellent; I want to reach that too. The other says they have achieved something excellent; I want them not to have it. The first is emulation. The second is envy. And here's what's unsettling: they arrive in identical packaging. Both begin with the same hot spike when you see someone else do the thing you wish you'd done.

The difference is entirely in what happens in the next thirty seconds. If the spike turns into how did they do that, what would I need to learn — it was emulation. If it turns into what's wrong with them, who did they know, it's not really that good — it was envy, and envy always presents itself as discernment. It never feels like envy from inside. It feels like accurate critical judgment.

So the sensation isn't the problem. The sensation is just fuel. It's what you do with it in half a minute that decides whether it builds something or corrodes you.

And here's one last thought, which is the most useful practical thing I know about this word.

Since emulation is about acquiring a standard rather than a style, the question to ask about anyone you admire isn't what do they do — it's what won't they accept? Every excellent person has a private line below which they refuse to go, and that line, not their technique, is the actual engine. The musician who won't release something they don't believe. The teacher who won't let a confused student leave the room. The friend who won't let a lie pass, even a comfortable one.

You can't copy someone's talent. But you can absolutely adopt someone's refusal — and it's free, and it's available today, and it's very nearly the whole thing.

So here's what I'll leave you with. Think of someone you admire enormously, and instead of asking what they've achieved, ask what they refuse to do. Name the line they won't cross. And then ask yourself the honest question: is that line anywhere in your life — or have you been admiring them for years precisely because admiration never required you to draw it?

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