Editorial
Finding Peace After Generations of Conflict: Can We Let Go of Grudges?
Let’s be honest—learning to love or even trust someone after years of conflict and pain is one of the hardest things we can imagine. History is full of long-standing grudges, deep wounds, and unresolved issues that seem impossible to heal. But here’s the thing: if we want a better world for our children and the generations to come, it’s a challenge we can’t afford to ignore. It’s not about forgetting the past or acting like everything is fine. It’s about finding a way forward, despite all the scars and mistrust.
Think about it. When conflict becomes so deeply ingrained that it spans generations, it creates an automatic divide. We inherit the grudges, the suspicions, and the fears of our ancestors without even questioning why. But when you stop and ask, “Where does this lead?” it becomes clear that continuing down the same path only promises more of the same: more pain, more loss, and, frankly, no winners.
Because that’s the thing—there are never any real winners in conflict. Sure, one side may claim victory, but the cost is always too high. Loss of life, shattered communities, and generational trauma don’t equal a win for anyone. The idea of winners and losers in conflict is a dangerous illusion. Both sides lose something in the process, whether it’s lives, trust, or the ability to live without fear. And as long as we frame conflicts in terms of winning and losing, peace will always be out of reach.
True peace can only happen when we start thinking in terms of win-win solutions. That means finding resolutions that allow both sides to heal, to feel heard, and to move forward with dignity. This doesn’t mean everyone gets exactly what they want. It means working toward solutions where both sides feel like they’ve gained something valuable—a sense of justice, security, and hope for the future. Peace, after all, can’t be forced on anyone. It has to be built through mutual understanding, compromise, and the willingness to see the humanity in those we’ve considered enemies for too long.
A win-win resolution is the only way forward because anything less keeps the cycle of resentment and revenge alive. If one side feels like they’ve lost, even after the fighting stops, the seeds of future conflict are planted. But if both sides walk away feeling like they’ve regained something—whether it’s safety, recognition, or a new beginning—that’s where real, lasting peace begins.
We can’t undo the past, but we can decide what happens next. It’s not about romanticizing a perfect world where everyone suddenly gets along. It’s about being realistic and recognizing that peace is the only viable option if we want a future that’s worth living in. We’ve seen what war and division do. We know the cost of hate. Maybe it’s time to see what happens when we try something different—when we lean into the discomfort of forgiveness and the hard work of rebuilding.
This isn’t about being weak or letting go of justice. It’s about understanding that real strength comes from moving forward despite everything. It’s about choosing to be the generation that doesn’t pass on the hatred, but passes on the lesson that peace, no matter how difficult, is always worth pursuing.
So, where do we start? Maybe with a conversation, an olive branch, or even just by challenging the narratives we’ve been handed down. It’s not going to be easy, and it certainly won’t happen overnight. But if we truly care about the future, we owe it to ourselves—and to those who come after us—to try.
We’ve spent enough time in conflict. Let’s see what we can build when we dare to love and trust again. And let’s make sure that as we do, everyone wins.
Danny Ballan
Editor-in-Chief
English Plus Magazine
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